Comments on: Is Un-Friending Un-Christian?

By: Rvelez

Rvelez — Mon, 04 Nov 2019 02:44:27 +0000

I blocked pastor from my text messaging. I have been visiting this church I cannot leave due to my husband. Pastor has questionable doctrines, which I have attempted to discuss with him. He has continuously ignored me.

He creates threads with no sound doctrine and I cannot discuss them with him because it will not amount to anything. With him, it’s his way or the highway. I decided to block as I started getting annoyed with unbiblical clutter. No hard feelings, I’m just annoyed with the false doctrine.

I’m praying God can provide a way out of this church, but I’m staying for my husband’s sake. He is hypnotized with Pastor and I can’t convince him to leave. It’s in God’s hands, but I must admit it’s truly affecting my spiritual life. It’s hard to worship somewhere where pastor and wife are explicitly carnal and church is becoming a leadership center to build a kingdom. No Jesus and remission of sin in sight.

Again, I have nothing personal against them, but this it’s heavy on my heart.

By: BoJe

BoJe — Sun, 10 Feb 2019 21:14:50 +0000

We were casualties of a church split. The pastor had only been there one year was let go. We ended up following the fired pastor. He began a start up church. He rented another church’s building and had services at 1 pm. After 5 months the afternoon services were interfering with us being with our adult children and grandchildren. We spoke with the pastor and explained our reason for leaving. We had not seen our family in 5 months and felt we could no longer put our family on the back burner. We loved the pastor, but we felt we needed to invest into our family. I thought we left on good terms. I guess not, because the pastor blocked and unfriended me. The funny thing is he is still Facebook friends with my husband. So much for me being honest and open with our pastor.

By: julie zetina

julie zetina — Sat, 13 Oct 2018 04:35:18 +0000

In reply to Meredith Gould. I"m with Meredith on this one. There are circumstances that can only be defined by an individual as to whether blocking is step one needs to take. People get far too offended at such silly things like social media and people collecting that goes along with it; how many likes, hearts, emojis etc... it's ridiculous to expect people to follow any kind of etiquette if they simply need to shelter themselves from potential drama or whatever excuse.

By: Paul Steinbrueck

Paul Steinbrueck — Tue, 25 Sep 2018 13:30:03 +0000

In reply to elaine. Hi Elaine, going to church, Christian concerts and Christian classes don't make someone a Christian any more than going to football games and football stadiums makes someone a football player. Being a Christian means recognizing we are sinful and broken and cannot fix ourselves or find peace on our own. It is only by trusting Jesus and choosing to following him that we are forgiven, made whole again and find peace. That said, I've found no value in debating these things in public on social media. If your friend doesn't want to discuss or mention God on Facebook, I think you should honor that request. My suggestion would be to pray for your friend and look for opportunities to have private spiritual conversations with her.

By: elaine

elaine — Mon, 24 Sep 2018 20:15:53 +0000

I have a Christian friend, we have gone to church, parties, christian concerts, christian classes, etc. She posted that peace can only come from yourself. I commented “God can give you peace”. She texted me and asked me not to “add’ God to her post. It is her page and she has Christian and not Christian friends. I was stunned by this. I told her it was not a reflection of her but of me and what I believe. etc. What do you think?

By: Paul Steinbrueck

Paul Steinbrueck — Mon, 17 Sep 2018 12:07:44 +0000

In reply to Krista. Hi Krista, thanks for your comment. There is no universal rule for who we should friend or not friend on Facebook. Who we friend or unfriend should not be done out of a sense of obligation but motivated by love and guided by the Holy Spirit. My suggestion would be to pray about it.

By: Krista

Krista — Mon, 17 Sep 2018 04:12:34 +0000

Is it a sin to block Christians on Facebook? I don’t mean a sin meaning it’ll send you to hell; obviously I know that’s not true. But as a Christian, SHOULD you block another Christian. It’s a shame that Christians can’t get along together, but on our part, shouldn’t we at least try?

I block a very good friend of mine on FB last week because of thing I really don’t wanna get into. And the last couple days, I’ve been wondering if it was the right thing to do as a Christian.

No matter WHAT the situation might be; the point is,, I’m a Christian, and sharing the gospel with people is the most important thing ever. If a Christian is misguided, it should be our duty to help them any way we can, is it not?

Point blank, should I unblock this person (and ALL people I’ve blocked for that matter)?

By: Paul Steinbrueck

Paul Steinbrueck — Mon, 04 Dec 2017 14:32:49 +0000

In reply to Kim Cowart.

Hi Kim, here are my thoughts on your question…

1) Do you know for sure the person friended you to be nosy? How do you know? Did you talk tot them about it? I would be careful about assuming motives.

2) What is the problem with this person knowing what you’re doing and posting? If you are doing/posting things you know are wrong or embarrassing, maybe that’s the bigger issue rather than someone being nosy.

By: Kim Cowart

Kim Cowart — Mon, 04 Dec 2017 05:26:50 +0000

If someone friends you that you attend church with only to see what you are doing right or wrong, Should you unfriend them because they are only being nosy?

By: marybeth

marybeth — Sun, 21 Aug 2016 12:10:53 +0000

I have had childhood classmates who are into some deep and dark spiritual stuff, posting things about satan, wicca, etc., on my friend list. Occasionally, the enemy will rear his ugly head and they will make a nasty comment on my Christian postings. Or they will post things mocking Christianity on their own page. (That’s what the “unfollow” button is for -I never have to see what their page is). But you know what? It means they’re reading my posts if they’re commenting. And that’s more than I’m doing of theirs. I have struggled with the unfriend thing, but I think “What if Jesus came back tomorrow and my facebook page is the only connection they have with truth?” Or “what if it’s 2 in the morning and they’re in a crisis and God is really pulling on their heart” and something I’ve posted resonates with them? I do not believe in carelessly unfriending. Most of the time, that decision can’t be undone and it’s like cutting the rope to their boat and letting them drift away when you may be their only tie line to the truth. God radically pursues us; is it so much to push aside our pride and “feelings” of “offense” and actually try to love a fallen world, even if it’s just keeping that person on our list? I’ve been unfriended and blocked by a couple of my very best childhood friends without any explanation; and I can only assume that it’s because they are disappointed that I’ve become a Christian. But that’s okay; it’s their choice, not mine, to have done it. If you’re going to hit that “unfriend” button, you better do it only under the influence of the Holy Spirit and not your own personal preference.